But we're in luck. As first dates go, it's a cracker. We do the safe small talk songs and it turns out that we have a lot in common – we want to think about how songs are arranged, we like to talk about how guitar parts can complement one another, we have a lovely female lead vocalist who can hold the stage while we get on with being a solid, ego-free backing section. I find that being in my thirties has helped me realise close harmonies can be beautiful, and that the volume control also turns anti-clockwise.
But while some things have changed, some are just the same. Getting picked up and squeezing four or five of us into one car, guitars piled on our laps and snare drums chattering in the boot. Tuning up and noodling, discovering the drummer may well be a better guitarist than anyone else and quickly walling him in behind the toms. The sheer joy from wringing a song together out of nothing and the little smiles that pass around the room when everyone's in time, in tune and in the zone.
Expectations have changed, though. Will we be successful? I don't think anyone's even thought about it. Our debut gig is less than a week away, and I'm going to make the most of it in case it's the only one. I've learned that much. And the mascara? Not this time, but I am going to sport a natty show-off hat - time doesn't change everything. Now hand me that microphone, I've got something to tell you...